Talk Sex?

Sexuality is often one of those things people have great difficulty
discussing. So much of the time, people have sex, but they do not have
discussions about sex. I wonder how many of you do not really discuss
sex with your partner(s).

I see many people in my office and on the phone who are very sexually
active and are quite open minded. However, it is very interesting to
see that so many of them do not have solid adult to adult conversations
about sex. The lack of these conversations seems to result in
misunderstandings. I think of the classic story about the woman who
fakes her orgasm because she is afraid to tell her partner what feels
good. Maybe she thinks her partner will be offended if she asks him/her
to do a little less of that or a little more of this. Once the pattern
has been established, she has been "faking" for years! Wow, how do you
get out of that one?

I also see many couples who end up with diseases or feeling let down by
their sexual experiences. This is all because there is not honest face
to face discussion before the sexual activities begin. Remember, your
partner(s) is not going to know what feels good to you unless you tell
him or her! This is very important. Sometimes, the lack of
communication causes one to be lax about safer sex…and disease(s) happen.

I want you to look at how comfortable you are TALKING about sex, not
having it. Chances are, if you are able to increase your comfort level
with discussing this, then you will have a much better and safer sex life.